Posted by Tobby > 2021-11-07 18:40 | Report Abuse

No! I am not telling you to dump your parents at old folks home and totally forget about them!
I am talking about us who are still strong and able! The thing is, we should not expect our children to take care of us once we get so old that we cant' even walk to the bathroom!
The days where we expect our children to take care of us is numbered! Those are the old values! The old values that most of us are abandoning!
I mean, in the olden days, having sxxx before marriage was taboo! So we are expected to get married first!
But since the 80s or so, many already thought this is a total joke! Why, because you are only sexually active between the age of 20 to 40! That's the prime of your reproductive age! Married or not, better use it!
Today, most of us have no time for our parents! Yeah, the malays would 'balik kampong' once in the while and post their fake affection to attract their friends admiration! Same with other races as well! Sadly, we use of parents to gain some milage especially posting them in social media as a way telling others we are soooo good! But in reality, we hardly see our parents!
For me and wifey, if one of us decided to unintentionally go to the other side, and as age crawls in, there comes a time where we can't take care of ourselves anymore!
So instead of burdening our children, it's best to prepare ourselves to be admitted into old folks home!
There are many options today but let's hope private old folks homes will improve like those in western countries!
Actually, private old folks homes are much better than staying all alone as children are too busy to attend to our needs! We can find like minded and participate in activities to occupy ourselves!
And most importantly, if in case of emergency, old folks home do have standby medical staff!

Posted by Sslee > 2021-11-07 18:49 | Report Abuse

Me at 60 is not that old yet and by the way me and my wife are actually looking forward to take care of grandkid.

As of my mum, my fourth brother and his daughter is living with mum and third brother family stay nearby.

And yes I do feel quilty not stay nearby my mum in Alor Star Kedah.

So the greatest gift you can give to your children is to always take good care of your health.

Posted by OnTime > 2021-11-07 19:20 | Report Abuse

Always believe in filial piety and do your part.